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Suicide As A Last Resort

| November 22, 2015 | 14 Comments

Day in and day out we hear or read about suicides committed by young married women such as:

  • “A 22-year-old woman was being harassed by her husband for trivial reasons. Unable to bear harassment, she resorted to the extreme step by setting herself ablaze on November 4 where she succumbed on Sunday night.
  • A 28-year-old woman committed suicide allegedly due to harassment by her husband and in-laws for more dowries.
  • In another case, U. Shyamala, 21, of Kotlur, committed suicide by hanging to the ceiling on Saturday night. She took the extreme step allegedly due to harassment by her husband and her in-laws”.

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“Suicide is associated with unfulfilled needs, feelings of hopelessness and helplessness, ambivalent conflicts between survival and unbearable stress, narrowing of preventing options, a need for escape,” says Edwin Shneidman.

More than 800,000 people die by suicide every year; of these 135,000 are residents of India. 80% of the suicide victims were literate, higher than the national average literacy rate of 74%.

The rate of suicide among females in India is close to three times that of males. The average rate for suicide among males in India is 58 for every 100,000 and 148 for every 100,000 women. This is contradicting to the situation in other parts of the world where the rate of suicides is high among men rather than women.

There were 19,120 suicides in India’s largest 53 cities. In the year 2012, Chennai reported the highest total number of suicides at 2,183, followed by Bangalore (1,989), Delhi (1,397) and Mumbai (1,296). Jabalpur (Madhya Pradesh) followed by Kollam (Kerala) reported the highest rate of suicides 45.1 and 40.5 per 100,000 people respectively, about 4 times higher than national average rate.

Parents spend sleepless nights in order to see their daughters married and settled. They make all out efforts and take every risk possible to arrange the wedding.  At the same time, they should also educate their daughters how to resolve marital conflicts. Precious life cannot be taken for the sake of harassment or dowry demands by husband or in-laws.

Some women also resort to suicide owing to their family’s financial status, unmarried sisters or the social stigma attached to a married woman returning to her parent’s home after an unsuccessful marriage. There is also a widely accepted belief “Babul ke gharse doli utegi tho Sasural ke gharse arthi” which has forced many to live in unhappy marriages.

Parents should ensure that they make a pre-marital agreement that protects the interests of their daughters in the event of any dispute so that their daughters are not forced to commit suicide as a last resort.

What options do you think are available for a woman who is suffering at her marital abode and is also not welcome at her parent’s house?

Asra

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I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.

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  1. upasna says:

    Suicide can only be performed by the one weak at heart. Parents should guide and support their children…esp daughters as they have to move to new home and deal with new people around with a hope to make each one happy.

    Parents should lend their daughters a brave heart apart from pampering.
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    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      So true! But when a girl finds no support from parents and is afraid that her unmarried sisters may become victims of society, she will find herself cornered. However, parents should provide moral support and guidance to clear any misunderstandings or obstacles that are jeopardizing the relationship.

      Thanks again Upasna for your valuable input.

  2. Seena Koshy says:

    well written article on suicide.. What ever the reason, the suicidal attempts has been increased in India. Th awareness has to be started from school level itself.. Counselling is there now a days, but in full swing..

    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Rightly said. The awareness should begin from school. Couple counselling would also help alleviate marital problems and deter suicidal attempts.

      Thanks again Seena for your kind comment.

  3. The first step is to make parents aware of educating and empowering your daughters in the right path. I know an IAS OFFICER who told his daughter to suffer her husband because they would not be able to bear the embarrassment of divorce

    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Thanks for dropping by Rakhi. Very true! Parents should educate and empower their daughters as well as stand by them by providing them moral support and guidance at times of conflicts and misunderstandings rather than desert them. Which of the two are better; embarrassment or death?

      Thanks again for your kind comment.

  4. Cifar says:

    girls should be reared in a way so that they feel strong about themselves, ending life is not an answer to any problem, come out from tense situation as life has much more to offer than a bad relationship,

    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Very true! Girls should be educated and empowered emotionally so that they are able to cope up with conflicts and able to resolve difficult situations rather than give-up.

      Thank you Cifar for your kind comment.

  5. Amit Prakash says:

    suicide is never a way out and Women may be anything but coward. It is a very nice initiative. well done Fayaz.

    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Thank you Amit. Actually those married women commit suicide do so not because of cowardice but they are left with no option and no source of help. At such moments they ought to seek outside help from their friends or some NGOs rather than giving up their precious lives.

      Thanks again for dropping by.

  6. It has become very common these days and too many suicide cases are being registered in the country. It’s high time for us to let go what the society thinks or taunts, rather stand as their pillar of support. Very well article projected with apt stats.
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  7. Couldn’t agree more with your words. Many women in our country commit suicide as their families don’t stand with them. It’s time that people should give up false sentiments and shame as “log kya kahenge” and support their daughters in all respect.
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    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      “Log Kya Kahenge” has truly drowned many families in myriad aspects of life. Making a pre-marital agreement, providing marital education and emotional support by parents would certainly protect the rights of women and help them in their marital journey.

      Thank you Maniparna.

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