Day in and day out we hear or read about suicides committed by young married women such as:
- “A 22-year-old woman was being harassed by her husband for trivial reasons. Unable to bear harassment, she resorted to the extreme step by setting herself ablaze on November 4 where she succumbed on Sunday night.
- A 28-year-old woman committed suicide allegedly due to harassment by her husband and in-laws for more dowries.
- In another case, U. Shyamala, 21, of Kotlur, committed suicide by hanging to the ceiling on Saturday night. She took the extreme step allegedly due to harassment by her husband and her in-laws”.
“Suicide is associated with unfulfilled needs, feelings of hopelessness and helplessness, ambivalent conflicts between survival and unbearable stress, narrowing of preventing options, a need for escape,” says Edwin Shneidman.
More than 800,000 people die by suicide every year; of these 135,000 are residents of India. 80% of the suicide victims were literate, higher than the national average literacy rate of 74%.
The rate of suicide among females in India is close to three times that of males. The average rate for suicide among males in India is 58 for every 100,000 and 148 for every 100,000 women. This is contradicting to the situation in other parts of the world where the rate of suicides is high among men rather than women.
There were 19,120 suicides in India’s largest 53 cities. In the year 2012, Chennai reported the highest total number of suicides at 2,183, followed by Bangalore (1,989), Delhi (1,397) and Mumbai (1,296). Jabalpur (Madhya Pradesh) followed by Kollam (Kerala) reported the highest rate of suicides 45.1 and 40.5 per 100,000 people respectively, about 4 times higher than national average rate.
Parents spend sleepless nights in order to see their daughters married and settled. They make all out efforts and take every risk possible to arrange the wedding. At the same time, they should also educate their daughters how to resolve marital conflicts. Precious life cannot be taken for the sake of harassment or dowry demands by husband or in-laws.
Some women also resort to suicide owing to their family’s financial status, unmarried sisters or the social stigma attached to a married woman returning to her parent’s home after an unsuccessful marriage. There is also a widely accepted belief “Babul ke gharse doli utegi tho Sasural ke gharse arthi” which has forced many to live in unhappy marriages.
Parents should ensure that they make a pre-marital agreement that protects the interests of their daughters in the event of any dispute so that their daughters are not forced to commit suicide as a last resort.
What options do you think are available for a woman who is suffering at her marital abode and is also not welcome at her parent’s house?
Category: MARITAL AWARENESS
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I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.