• Dowry returned by 800 families

    Dowry returned by 800 families

    Hats Off to those who initiated this wonderful campaign due to which dowry has been returned by the grooms’ families.  Below is the report: A silent and unique social transformation is sweeping the Muslim community in Jharkhand’s Palamu region, with hundreds of families returning dowry they had taken during their sons’ weddings. Over the last […]

    Continue Reading

  • Conscious Living

    Conscious Living

    Dear Readers!   The other day while I was browsing the net, I was shocked to read some of the following statistics and I realized that there’s a bigger threat to humanity today than any weapons of mass destruction or wars. Can we do anything to mitigate this dangerous situation? 185,000 people were killed in […]

    Continue Reading

  • An Accident

    An Accident

    An accident is defined as a Mishap, a Misfortune, a Calamity, a Catastrophe, a Disaster or a Mistake Where an accident is a Mishap and suppose you drive with a cup of coffee in your hand and you bump into another car from behind It’s a big blunder and not a mishap Where an accident […]

    Continue Reading

  • Celebrating 4th Anniversary

    Celebrating 4th Anniversary

    Dear Readers, Hello and Assalamualaikum! The blog today successfully marks the 4th Anniversary of a beautiful journey with your support and kind appreciation. Muslim Wedding Flight did face some turbulence issues during the year. However, it has been able to cruise safely to distant destinations across the globe with the constant support and encouragement from […]

    Continue Reading

  • 8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College-Final Part

    8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College-Final Part

    Here are the reasons to NOT send your daughter to college: 1. She will attract the wrong types of men. I share the common concern addressed to us, again mainly by angry women, that there are so many lazy men in our society. But what mystifies me is why girls continue to marry them and […]

    Continue Reading

  • 8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College- Part1

    8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College- Part1

    Probably the most controversial and rejected position we have at Fix the Family is that parents should not send their daughters to college. It is even more vehemently opposed than the submission of wives to their husbands. Both of these positions we have are a threat to the trophies of the feminist agenda, so the […]

    Continue Reading

  • Paying Guest and Marital Accommodation

    Paying Guest and Marital Accommodation

    Dear Readers, While watching a video about the recent suicide of a six month pregnant woman who was also a mother of two children, it pained me a lot.  She committed suicide as she was being tortured for more dowries.  On the other hand, I was startled when I read about the facilities provided in […]

    Continue Reading

  • What Will You Do In This Situation?

    A teaspoon is a unit of volume measure equal to 1/3 tablespoon. It is exactly equal to 5 mL. In the USA there are 16 teaspoons in 1/3 cup, and there are 6 teaspoons in 1 fluid ounce. Why am I saying all this as if no one knows a teaspoon. Well, this little teaspoon […]

    Continue Reading

  • Knowing the Purposes of a Marriage

    Knowing the Purposes of a Marriage

    Parents and those seeking a spouse are mostly worried about the wedding day and how they would be able to meet the expenses and make necessary arrangements for a smooth wedding.  However, a majority of them discard the idea of checking the veracity of the spouse’s background, getting a premarital medical checkup done or having […]

    Continue Reading

  • Kuch Rang SaaS Ke Aise Bhi – Part-2

    Kuch Rang SaaS Ke Aise Bhi – Part-2

    MIL (Mother-In-Law): Dear Daughter-In-Law (DIL), While I was seeking a bride for my son, I had made it clear that we are against the evil practice of dowry system. However, almost all proposals that we came across were loaded with dowries because my son is settled abroad. In some proposals, parents were even willing to […]

    Continue Reading

  • Why Marry?

    Unfortunately, these are some of the (unmentioned) reasons that some parents conceal when deciding to marry their children: • Our son is frivolous and we hope that he will learn his responsibilities once he gets married. • The mother is old and sick and we need a woman (daughter in-law) who will look after the […]

    Continue Reading

  • Marriage Planning

    Marriage Planning

    “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail’ Benjamin Franklin         Planning can be defined as a mental process to achieve some predetermined goals based on facts rather than guesses.  Some of the areas that require planning are : Life Goals, Personality, Academic/Religious Qualifications, Essential Skills, Hobbies and Interests,  Well-Being and Social Interests.  A […]

    Continue Reading

  • ABOUT ME

    ABOUT ME

    Hello and As Salamualaykum! Welcome aboard Muslim Wedding Flight and thank you very much for visiting my blog. I’m sure you must be bemused after reading this unusual blog title. Well, I got this idea while I was thinking about the various steps involved for a journey by flight. I wondered if people had to make meticulous […]

    Continue Reading

  • CONTACT

    CONTACT

        Please follow and like us:0 var addthis_config = { url: “http://muslimweddingflight.com/contact”, title: “CONTACT” }

    Continue Reading

Security Check (Premarital Agreement)

| May 8, 2013 | 10 Comments

Security Check refers to the Pre-Marital Contract Agreement that ensures Safety and Security in the marital bond and prevents from any undue advantage being taken by either Spouse or In-Laws in the event of any marital problems.

Premarital Contract Agreement:

We make life insurance, vehicle insurance, investment insurance, fire insurance, theft insurance, etc., in order to secure our interests in case of any future eventualities.

  • An Employment Contract protects the interests of the employer and the employee.
  • A Construction Contract protects the interests of the Contractor and the Client.
  • A Rental Agreement protects the interests of the house owner and the tenant.
  • A Lease Agreement protects the interests of the Lessor and the Lessee.

The Muslim Marriage (Nikah) is a Civil Contract which contains the basic ingredients of a regular everyday marital life. Unfortunately, this is the only Contract that is signed like a blank cheque.   No precaution or measures are taken to safeguard the couples’ rights as a spouse while entering into wedlock.

The Society is inundated with marital problems and a majority of the victims are women who are left with little or no choice. There are innumerable cases where families are frequenting between the Courts and Police Stations and awaiting to resolve their issues. In marriages where some major factors related to income, health, religion, property, education, employment, spousal expectations etc., are discovered later to be untrue or assumed, marital conflicts deepen and ruin the relationship.

The Marriage Contract should therefore be made by both Spouses specifying certain conditions and emphasizing certain Rights & Duties of the Spouse provided that they do not contradict the Islamic Shariah. This will provide more strength to the conditions stipulated and safeguard the Islamic Rights of the spouse and lead to lesser conflicts thereby contributing harmony in the marital relationship.  

As these matters can have lifelong effect upon both spouses and their children, it is important that the stipulations be properly discussed beforehand and that both parties read this document carefully. This document must be in writing and signed by both spouses and be notarized.   Any future marital conflict could be resolved by mediation and arbitration on the basis of the Prenuptial Contract Agreement (Marriage Contract).

The Marriage Contract must be completed and signed in triplicate:  The first copy should be given to the bride, second copy to the bridegroom and the third copy should remain deposited with the Imam/Qadi who countersigns the Agreement.

The Marriage Contract may contain any number of additional details which the couple has agreed upon as pre-requisites to their married life.  The spouse-to-be should consult a qualified Islamic Scholar and a Muslim Lawyer to draft the Marriage Contract suitable to their requirements.

Mahar is the consideration for the contract of marriage between the parties.  It may be in the form of money and/or goods given by the Bridegroom to the Bride in consideration for the marriage. It is an essential element of Muslim marriage and is exclusively reserved for the use of the female partner. Payment of Mahar could be immediate (prompt), or deferred. 

a) Mu‘ajjal (Immediate/Prompt): This means the total amount of Mahr payable by the Husband at the time of signing of marriage contract.

b) Mu’wajjal (Deferred): This means the portion of the Mahar which is payable to the wife at a specified point in the marriage or at the time of dissolution of the marriage through divorce or death of the husband. Any deferred Mahar that remains unpaid at the time of dissolution becomes a debt against the former husband’s assets.

Portion of the Mahar paid at the time of marriage

The details of the amount and/or goods received as Mahar at the time of marriage should be written down. This does not include general gifts to the bride from the bridegroom and/or his family unless these be expressly included in (a) above as part of the amount of Mahar.

Mahar is the bride’s Islamic right. Therefore the details of its payment should be set out very clearly in the Marriage Contract. The bride could settle an appropriate amount of dower to cover the demands of life after either a divorce or the husband’s death, or she could arrange for an annuity, or a fixed monthly amount payable to her upon the occurrence of either of those two events.

A sample Marriage Contract with some stipulations can be found in the book “Muslim Wedding Flight”.

Please follow and like us:
0

Tags: , , , , , , , ,

Category: MARITAL AWARENESS

About the Author (Author Profile)

I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.

Please follow and like us:
0

Comments (10)

Trackback URL | Comments RSS Feed

  1. Rat says:

    Even after the Nikah, if the husband delays paying the Mahar, wife isn’t rightful to him until he pays it. quite an informative post. throws much light on Islamic Marriages. nice read :)

  2. Prasanna Raghavan says:

    Registration of marriages is the other side of accountability and responsibility of the people in a society, muslim or no muslim

    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Very true! In Islam Marriage is done on a Contractual Agreement wherein both parties agree to the conditions in order to safeguard their rights. However, it has not been put into practice and hence there are multitude of problems after the marriage.

  3. I agree. I’m for registration of all marriages with Marriage Contracts.

    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Easwarji, You are right. it’s high time that those getting married opt for signing of Marital Contracts wherein they can avoid a lot of pain in case of any disagreements or divorce.

  4. Bushra says:

    Great info! Dinno so much about marriages! :)

Leave a Reply

CommentLuv badge

Enjoy this blog? Please spread the word :)

WordPress Backup