A Rich and Beautiful Girl and an Educated Boy

| November 20, 2017

In a marital bond there are many aspects that impact the relationship than what is assumed by a majority as necessary.   In most matrimonial advertisements, a rich and beautiful girl and an educated boy are sought for a marriage proposal.   A few such advertisements are cited below:

  • Looking for Engineer (B.Tech/MS) from decent family, well settled in Gulf, USA or Middle East.
  • Looking for well settled boy doing job or business in India or Abroad from good family
  • Looking for a Post Graduated well settled boy in India from Decent Family; Bride should be fair, Graduate or PG, from decent Family
  • Parents invite alliance for their Daughter Aged 26 years, Height 5′-3″, MBBS. Very fair & beautiful:  Looking for well educated Masters, Doctorate, Engineer Groom from USA , CANADA, LONDON.
  • My Daughter is Aged 23 year. She is very beautiful, silent nature, calm, and sharp feature bride. We are looking for a groom Age: 25-29yrs Height 5.4 to 5.7,well settled groom, Graduate or post graduate, Own Business, private job or Govt Job, from a good family background.
  • My Daughter is Age 23 yrs. Height 5.3 B.com. we are looking for a groom Age: 25-28 yrs. Height 5.4 to 5.7, well educated well settled in abroad or Gulf countries from a good family background.
  • “US Citizen, Urdu-Sunni, Business, Financially and Professional Settled, Age 40, divorced, 5-8 height, good looking, seeking a suitable US Citizen professional partner.
  • We are looking for a professional, educated or suitable groom for our sister – 37 years old, never married, Sunni, Urdu-speaking, MS US citizen, attractive, fair complexion, 5’ 1” height.
  • Looking for a good match for our sister. 34 years old,  5 ft 5″, never been married, Associate in Arts/Vocational Nursing, US Permanent resident.
  • Parents invite proposals for son, 40 years, 6’-2”, handsome and very healthy, MBA from UC Irvine, owns very successful health care business – seeking attractive, fair color, minimum 5’-3”, educated,  girl.

However, a potential mate apart from beauty and wealth is also expected to have certain traits which make or mar a relationship. In one illustrious study of love in 1986, Psychologists David Buss and Michael Barnes asked people to rank 76 characteristics. What do you value most in a potential mate?  The winner wasn’t beauty or wealth, it was: Kind and understanding, followed by; Exciting personality” and Intelligence.

In another survey the mate preferences were as follows:

  • good heredity
  • kind & understanding
  • healthy
  • religious
  • exciting personality
  • creative & artistic
  • good housekeeper
  • Intelligent
  • wants children
  • easygoing
  • physically attractive

Should marriage proposals be limited only to wealth, beauty and education?

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Category: Marital Awareness

About the Author (Author Profile)

I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner from American University of NLP. I love reading, writing and Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system and Feticide.

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  1. So well said, Fayazji. Definitely, ultimately everyone wants a kind and understanding life-partner. But, they try to take the longest route and end up choosing one without checking for compatibility, kindness and understanding.

    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Expectations from a married life and what parents do in reality are totally opposite thereby creating more room for conflicts in the marital journey. Parents and those who seek marriage should be more focused on those aspects that help in a compatible relationship.

      Thank you Sindhu for your thoughtful comment and appreciation.

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