The Creator has designed different roles for human beings. However, these roles differ between Reel and Real Life. Actors and actresses bring characters to life and deliver believable and effective performances by memorizing lines and actions from scripts. They study scripts, rehearse performances and ensure that they conform the emotions, gestures and facial expressions to portray the character as per the script. Some screenwriters give the director and/or actors more latitude in contributing to the dialog while others insist on strict adherence to their scripts.
Actors and actresses spend many years working at small theater productions, commercials and television and practice in front of the mirror for improving their speech in order to succeed in auditioning. They are also creative, adept in speaking skills and memorization. Apart from all of the above, luck, talent, grit, courage and patience are also essential. Some actors seek help from acting coaches who teach tricks of the trade and prepare them for roles and find auditions.
On the other hand, in REAL life, we play several roles. One of the most important roles that become the foundation of a family and the Society is that of a Husband and a Wife. This role is assigned via Marriage. In order to play this role the couple mentally prepares a script before marriage. However, the script of the couple may also totally differ from each other. At the same time, their parents too mentally prepare separate scripts for the couple. Family members of parents as well as In-Laws too have their own scripts. Other than these, friends, neighbors, relatives also take part in script writing for the couple’s role. Thus, a host of scriptwriters get involved before and after the marriage.
These scripts invade almost every aspect of marital life including the couple’s bedroom privacy. The couple lack freedom to make minor or major decisions on their own. Their lives become more or less robotic. They have to ensure that their behavior, attitude and all aspects of life are in conformity with everybody’s scripts. Since the couple does not have any written script, they usually go with the flow. Patience and hope are their only resources for survival.
In case of Reel-life, many a problems are solved during the shoot and can even be edited after completing the movie. If scripts are bad the movie may flop. In Real-life it is not easy to edit the scripts. If the scripts are bad, it only leads to a host of problems between the spouses or with in-laws and sometimes leads to a divorce.
It is therefore essential for the couple to write down their scripts consisting of social and marital expectations and also confirm if the script of the In-Laws (expectations) is in agreement with their scripts. If the script requires additional skills pertaining to social, emotional, interpersonal, communication etc., the couple should hone their skills in order to ensure that they perform a better role.
Category: MARITAL AWARENESS
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I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.