• Dowry returned by 800 families

    Dowry returned by 800 families

    Hats Off to those who initiated this wonderful campaign due to which dowry has been returned by the grooms’ families.  Below is the report: A silent and unique social transformation is sweeping the Muslim community in Jharkhand’s Palamu region, with hundreds of families returning dowry they had taken during their sons’ weddings. Over the last […]

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  • Conscious Living

    Conscious Living

    Dear Readers!   The other day while I was browsing the net, I was shocked to read some of the following statistics and I realized that there’s a bigger threat to humanity today than any weapons of mass destruction or wars. Can we do anything to mitigate this dangerous situation? 185,000 people were killed in […]

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  • An Accident

    An Accident

    An accident is defined as a Mishap, a Misfortune, a Calamity, a Catastrophe, a Disaster or a Mistake Where an accident is a Mishap and suppose you drive with a cup of coffee in your hand and you bump into another car from behind It’s a big blunder and not a mishap Where an accident […]

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  • Celebrating 4th Anniversary

    Celebrating 4th Anniversary

    Dear Readers, Hello and Assalamualaikum! The blog today successfully marks the 4th Anniversary of a beautiful journey with your support and kind appreciation. Muslim Wedding Flight did face some turbulence issues during the year. However, it has been able to cruise safely to distant destinations across the globe with the constant support and encouragement from […]

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  • 8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College-Final Part

    8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College-Final Part

    Here are the reasons to NOT send your daughter to college: 1. She will attract the wrong types of men. I share the common concern addressed to us, again mainly by angry women, that there are so many lazy men in our society. But what mystifies me is why girls continue to marry them and […]

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  • 8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College- Part1

    8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College- Part1

    Probably the most controversial and rejected position we have at Fix the Family is that parents should not send their daughters to college. It is even more vehemently opposed than the submission of wives to their husbands. Both of these positions we have are a threat to the trophies of the feminist agenda, so the […]

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  • Paying Guest and Marital Accommodation

    Paying Guest and Marital Accommodation

    Dear Readers, While watching a video about the recent suicide of a six month pregnant woman who was also a mother of two children, it pained me a lot.  She committed suicide as she was being tortured for more dowries.  On the other hand, I was startled when I read about the facilities provided in […]

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  • What Will You Do In This Situation?

    A teaspoon is a unit of volume measure equal to 1/3 tablespoon. It is exactly equal to 5 mL. In the USA there are 16 teaspoons in 1/3 cup, and there are 6 teaspoons in 1 fluid ounce. Why am I saying all this as if no one knows a teaspoon. Well, this little teaspoon […]

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  • Knowing the Purposes of a Marriage

    Knowing the Purposes of a Marriage

    Parents and those seeking a spouse are mostly worried about the wedding day and how they would be able to meet the expenses and make necessary arrangements for a smooth wedding.  However, a majority of them discard the idea of checking the veracity of the spouse’s background, getting a premarital medical checkup done or having […]

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  • Kuch Rang SaaS Ke Aise Bhi – Part-2

    Kuch Rang SaaS Ke Aise Bhi – Part-2

    MIL (Mother-In-Law): Dear Daughter-In-Law (DIL), While I was seeking a bride for my son, I had made it clear that we are against the evil practice of dowry system. However, almost all proposals that we came across were loaded with dowries because my son is settled abroad. In some proposals, parents were even willing to […]

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  • Why Marry?

    Unfortunately, these are some of the (unmentioned) reasons that some parents conceal when deciding to marry their children: • Our son is frivolous and we hope that he will learn his responsibilities once he gets married. • The mother is old and sick and we need a woman (daughter in-law) who will look after the […]

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  • Marriage Planning

    Marriage Planning

    “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail’ Benjamin Franklin         Planning can be defined as a mental process to achieve some predetermined goals based on facts rather than guesses.  Some of the areas that require planning are : Life Goals, Personality, Academic/Religious Qualifications, Essential Skills, Hobbies and Interests,  Well-Being and Social Interests.  A […]

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  • ABOUT ME

    ABOUT ME

    Hello and As Salamualaykum! Welcome aboard Muslim Wedding Flight and thank you very much for visiting my blog. I’m sure you must be bemused after reading this unusual blog title. Well, I got this idea while I was thinking about the various steps involved for a journey by flight. I wondered if people had to make meticulous […]

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  • CONTACT

    CONTACT

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Reel And Real Life

| December 17, 2014 | 4 Comments

The Creator has designed different roles for human beings. However, these roles differ between Reel and Real Life. Actors and actresses bring characters to life and deliver believable and effective performances by memorizing lines and actions from scripts. They study scripts, rehearse performances and ensure that they conform the emotions, gestures and facial expressions to portray the character as per the script. Some screenwriters give the director and/or actors more latitude in contributing to the dialog while others insist on strict adherence to their scripts.

Actors and actresses spend many years working at small theater productions, commercials and television and practice in front of the mirror for improving their speech in order to succeed in auditioning. They are also creative, adept in speaking skills and memorization. Apart from all of the above, luck, talent, grit, courage and patience are also essential. Some actors seek help from acting coaches who teach tricks of the trade and prepare them for roles and find auditions.

On the other hand, in REAL life, we play several roles. One of the most important roles that become the foundation of a family and the Society is that of a Husband and a Wife. This role is assigned via Marriage. In order to play this role the couple mentally prepares a script before marriage. However, the script of the couple may also totally differ from each other. At the same time, their parents too mentally prepare separate scripts for the couple. Family members of parents as well as In-Laws too have their own scripts. Other than these, friends, neighbors, relatives also take part in script writing for the couple’s role. Thus, a host of scriptwriters get involved before and after the marriage.

These scripts invade almost every aspect of marital life including the couple’s bedroom privacy. The couple lack freedom to make minor or major decisions on their own. Their lives become more or less robotic. They have to ensure that their behavior, attitude and all aspects of life are in conformity with everybody’s scripts. Since the couple does not have any written script, they usually go with the flow. Patience and hope are their only resources for survival.

In case of Reel-life, many a problems are solved during the shoot and can even be edited after completing the movie. If scripts are bad the movie may flop. In Real-life it is not easy to edit the scripts. If the scripts are bad, it only leads to a host of problems between the spouses or with in-laws and sometimes leads to a divorce.

It is therefore essential for the couple to write down their scripts consisting of social and marital expectations and also confirm if the script of the In-Laws (expectations) is in agreement with their scripts. If the script requires additional skills pertaining to social, emotional, interpersonal, communication etc., the couple should hone their skills in order to ensure that they perform a better role.

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If you are seeking a spouse, have you prepared your scripts?

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I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.

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  1. Anita says:

    Very right. Totally agree :)
    Real life has no retakes/edit-changes. We better get it right :)
    Nicely expressed!
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  2. Abhijit says:

    True. Most of the time we react spontaneously without much thought.

    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      This spontaneous reaction leads to more troubles in life. If the couple do have a script for their future life regarding their goals, their aspirations, their expectations etc.and have a reasonable conformity with their would-be-spouse and in-laws, many hurdles post-marriage would be avoided.

      Thank you Sir for your kind comment.

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