Parents spend sleepless nights and wish to see their children (daughters in particular) to be married. Their search however is more directed towards finding an equally qualified than a capable spouse.
Apart from some of the above reasons, parents truly wish to see their daughters’ marital happiness. However, some parent’s insist upon finding an equally qualified spouse. When one of the conditions stipulated for a would-be-spouse is cited as “Doctor for a Doctor”, “Engineer for an Engineer”, Graduate for a Graduate, the proposals start diminishing. This condition alone has resulted in many girls staying unmarried beyond 30s.
Parents should instead focus on finding a spouse who could best fulfill the hierarchy of needs.
When parents identify their child’s needs in the hierarchy and search for a mate who could fulfill that level, there can be some expectation of a blissful marital partnership.
For example: If partner “A” is yearning to fulfill “Self Actualization” needs and partner “B” is only able to fulfill the Physiological, Safety and Belonging needs, it will create an imbalance in the relationship. Under such relationships, having equal qualifications of both partners becomes immaterial.
The following explanation throws more light on the subject:
Would you prefer an equally qualified or a capable spouse?
Category: MARITAL AWARENESS
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I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.