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Prevention Is Better Than Cure

| August 31, 2014 | 6 Comments

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Prevention is better than cure is an old saying which means that we should prevent a disease by observing hygiene instead of letting the disease spread by causing further complications and deterioration and needing lots of efforts to cure it. Those who do not observe it usually suffer. When we nip the bud in the beginning itself, we won’t have to suffer at a future stage. Similarly, this principle also applies to habits, character and others aspects of life.

“A stitch in time saves nine” or “an ounce of prevention is worth more than a pound of cure” also mean the same as above.

“The Parsi chief matrimonial court, which is at the Bombay high court, has ex-parte dissolved a 15-year marriage of a Parsi couple, holding there was extreme physical abuse by the husband which included burning his wife with “red-hot utensils”.

The couple married on May 6, 1999, and have no children. Four months after the marriage, the wife found love letters and cards written by a woman and learnt that he was previously married to her and divorced. She also found that he was short-tempered, suspicious, prone to mood swings and compulsively lied to her. He was also unable to hold a job. He did not allow her to visit her mother or to invite her parents to her matrimonial home. “Even when the plaintiff’s mother was unwell and in the ICU, the defendant did not permit the plaintiff to visit her mother,” the judge wrote. A year-and-a-half after the marriage, the man started becoming violent with the wife, abusing her mentally and physically. Since 2001, he became unemployed but he never allowed her to work. In order to make ends meet, the wife was compelled to start taking private tuitions and running a tiffin service. “In the years that followed, he continued to treat her with cruelty. He sold her personal jewellery,” Justice Patel said, adding that the woman submitted details of various instances of cruelty.

Source: Rosy Sequeira,TNN | Aug 4, 2014, 05.31 AM IST

Time and again parents read, watch on TV, Internet and other forms of media regarding the various reasons that lead to divorce or sometimes death of their beloved daughters due to harassment by the spouse or In-Laws.

However, most parents still hesitate to make a simple “Premarital Agreement” that contains some conditions that would be mutually agreed upon by both partners and their parents before marriage. This document would be able to protect the interests of both partners and be helpful in any future litigation matters if they should arise.

Contracts or Agreements are made for selling, renting or leasing a house and in many business transactions. A premarital agreement is a vital document that makes it transparent regarding what is acceptable or not acceptable by the spouse or his/her parents. By not making this document parents put their children’s lives at stake and instead consider fate or destiny as final.

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I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.

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  1. Sindhoooo says:

    Christians have this system of premarital agreement right? I think, it is better if it is made compulsory by law…
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    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Yes, Christians especially in US and European Countries do have a Premarital Agreement signed in order to protect themselves in case of divorce or any future litigation matters. Whether it is made compulsory or not, yet it is essential to make this Agreement or Memorandum of Understanding so that both have the right to protect their interests. Many women were not able to get back their jewelry and dowry items when there was a divorce case. Similarly, there are many other conditions that both can agree upon prior to getting married.

  2. Indrani says:

    The idea is good but the moment girl’s family mentions this the boy’s family will withdraw I am sure.

    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Suppose we are buying a property, we should demand a copy of the relevant documents in the first place to ensure ownership of the property. And if the owner or the seller are hesitant to provide the necessary documents, it is clear that there’s something fishy. In the same way, if any details are sought by parents of both girl and boy, none should hesitate to provide or agree upon certain conditions. If anybody backs out, it is much safer to find someone who are ready to negotiate a good partnership.

  3. Anita says:

    Better to be safe than sorry. Such things are happening regularly & we better beware. Makes sense to be prepared with agreements.
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    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Very true Anita! We are not prepared to invest in any business or purchase a property without an Agreement Contract. However, we are hesitant to negotiate conditions for a lifetime journey and we leave it for destiny or fate. The result is a life-time suffering particularly for the girl who gets stuck between parents and in-laws.

      The link for the Youtube video above explains it all.

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