Prevention is better than cure is an old saying which means that we should prevent a disease by observing hygiene instead of letting the disease spread by causing further complications and deterioration and needing lots of efforts to cure it. Those who do not observe it usually suffer. When we nip the bud in the beginning itself, we won’t have to suffer at a future stage. Similarly, this principle also applies to habits, character and others aspects of life.
“A stitch in time saves nine” or “an ounce of prevention is worth more than a pound of cure” also mean the same as above.
“The Parsi chief matrimonial court, which is at the Bombay high court, has ex-parte dissolved a 15-year marriage of a Parsi couple, holding there was extreme physical abuse by the husband which included burning his wife with “red-hot utensils”.
The couple married on May 6, 1999, and have no children. Four months after the marriage, the wife found love letters and cards written by a woman and learnt that he was previously married to her and divorced. She also found that he was short-tempered, suspicious, prone to mood swings and compulsively lied to her. He was also unable to hold a job. He did not allow her to visit her mother or to invite her parents to her matrimonial home. “Even when the plaintiff’s mother was unwell and in the ICU, the defendant did not permit the plaintiff to visit her mother,” the judge wrote. A year-and-a-half after the marriage, the man started becoming violent with the wife, abusing her mentally and physically. Since 2001, he became unemployed but he never allowed her to work. In order to make ends meet, the wife was compelled to start taking private tuitions and running a tiffin service. “In the years that followed, he continued to treat her with cruelty. He sold her personal jewellery,” Justice Patel said, adding that the woman submitted details of various instances of cruelty.
Source: Rosy Sequeira,TNN | Aug 4, 2014, 05.31 AM IST
Time and again parents read, watch on TV, Internet and other forms of media regarding the various reasons that lead to divorce or sometimes death of their beloved daughters due to harassment by the spouse or In-Laws.
However, most parents still hesitate to make a simple “Premarital Agreement” that contains some conditions that would be mutually agreed upon by both partners and their parents before marriage. This document would be able to protect the interests of both partners and be helpful in any future litigation matters if they should arise.
Contracts or Agreements are made for selling, renting or leasing a house and in many business transactions. A premarital agreement is a vital document that makes it transparent regarding what is acceptable or not acceptable by the spouse or his/her parents. By not making this document parents put their children’s lives at stake and instead consider fate or destiny as final.
Category: MARITAL AWARENESS
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I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.