While watching a video about the recent suicide of a six month pregnant woman who was also a mother of two children, it pained me a lot. She committed suicide as she was being tortured for more dowries. On the other hand, I was startled when I read about the facilities provided in a PG accommodation and hence the following FAQ about the differences between a paying guest and marital accommodation:
What is a Paying guest (PG) accommodation?
Paying guest or PG Accommodation is a room in a flat or house. It is rented out to stay for a short time (1-6 months) or long time (6+ months). Paying guest is suitable for students and working professionals.
What is a Marital Accommodation?
A marital accommodation is a room in a flat or house. It is provided to a Daughter-In-Law to stay as long as she can manage.
What will be the average cost for a paying guest accommodation?
On an average it starts from Rs 3000 and above. It depends on the location of Paying Guest, Facilities provided by the Paying Guest Accommodation (PG), and most importantly depends on Occupancy .i.e. Single/ Double/ Triple/Four/Five Sharing Room.
What will be the average cost for a marital accommodation?
On an average it starts from Rs.100,000 and above (sky is the limit). It also depends upon “Dahej” (Dowry) which includes clothes, jewelry, furniture, vehicle, electronic gadgets, kitchen and other home appliances and cash as part of dowry.
Do I need to pay deposit for paying guest?
Yes! Normally PG owners ask you to make a Deposit of One month Rent. There are few PG Accommodations where the PG owners do not ask for any deposit. But there are few conditions to get back the deposit.
Do I need to pay any deposit as a daughter-in-law?
Yes! Normally Daughters-In-Laws parents provide huge dowry items and also pay in cash as per demand.
What are the Conditions for getting back my Security Deposit?
There are many people who complain about not getting their security deposit while vacating from the PG. The reason is, the PG owners inform you to tell them a month before you vacate the PG for them to refund your Deposit. Many Guests forget this or they might have to vacate suddenly to move to another city or another area. In Such cases, PG owners do not return the deposit stating that you haven’t informed them in advance.
What are the Conditions for getting back my dowry items and cash from my In-laws?
There is a bleak chance that a Daughter-In-Law would get back any of her dowry or cash in case of a divorce. However, a majority of the daughters-in-law never bother to make a Premarital Agreement wherein a condition could be agreed upon regarding settlement of dowry in case of divorce.
What are the facilities we get in a Paying guest (PG) Accommodation?
- North and South Indian Food
- Multi-Cuisine Food / Kerala Style / Andhra Style Depending on the Owner of the (PG)
- 24 Hours Hot Water
- Drinking Mineral Water
- Separate wardrobes / Cupboards / Lockers
- LED/ LCD TV
- Attached bathrooms
- 2 and 4 Wheeler Parking
- Wi-Fi Connectivity
- Self cooking facility
- Few PGs have Living room with Sofa Set and a Big LED TV
- And few High End Paying Guests (PG) also have GYM for fitness Freaks
What facilities does a Daughter-In-Law get at her In-Laws?
A Daughter-In-Law gets a room which is usually furnished by her parents. She brings in most of the necessities of life in the form of dowry. Yet, she will have to struggle for many basics of life including privacy.
What is the advantage of a Paying Guest (PG) over a House or Flat?
The house or flat rents are usually very high! Plus if you need to rent a house, you will have to pay 10 months of rent as security deposit and also bear the electricity/water bill charges and food has to be cooked by you! For students / working professionals, it may be difficult to meet these expenses. But in Paying Guest (PG), you just have to pay one month rent in advance and you can move in with your baggage. You get a fully furnished room with LED TV, WI-FI, Food, Washing machine, etc etc. So staying in PG is preferred over a house or flat.
What is the advantage or disadvantage of staying at In-Laws?
Well, the advantage is that you are married and you hope to have a family and achieve some of your marital dreams.
The disadvantage is that when you move in with your baggage, your parents will have to provide all facilities as well as pay a hefty amount in cash before you step into your in-laws abode. On the other hand, there’s no guarantee that you will ever get anything back in case of divorce.
What safety measures are taken for Ladies/Girls as PGs?
The Government has ordered that all Ladies Paying Guest House (PG) must have a CCTV Camera and a Security guard to ensure safety of the ladies/girls staying in the PG.
What safety & security measures are available for a Daughter-In-Law?
Safety and Security of a Daughter-In-Law has always been at high risk. Nearly 24,771 dowry deaths have been reported in last 3 years in India. Most dowry deaths occur when the young woman, unable to bear the harassment and torture, commits suicide. Most of these suicides are by hanging, poisoning or by fire. Sometimes the woman is killed by setting herself on fire; this is known as “bride burning”, and sometimes disguised as suicide or accident. Death by burning of Indian women has been more frequently attributed to dowry conflicts.
Finally, which accommodation seems more attractive, better and safe?
I would prefer that my esteemed readers answer this question.
A majority of the parents think that higher or huge dowries proves or establishes their status in the society. However, after seeing these PG accommodations, they need to rethink about their status.
Category: MARITAL AWARENESS
About the Author (Author Profile)
I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.