Couples make elaborate wedding and honeymoon plans to make wedding the most memorable day of life but none for a life together. Additionally, many are looking for spouses to marry without looking at their responsibilities in a marriage.
How ridiculous would it be for a person to go to a job interview without having read the job description? Equally absurd is the way many people get married each year without any knowledge of or preparation for the realities of marriage.
A wedding ceremony involves exchange of vows, gifts and a public proclamation of marriage. Wedding celebrations vary between traditions, customs, cultures, religions, ethnic groups, social classes and countries. The average expenses of a wedding range between 5 lakhs to 5 crores in India. A person, in India, spends one fifth of the wealth accumulated in a lifetime on a wedding ceremony.
In the United States there are approximately 2.5 million weddings each year and with about one marriage per family every 20 years, an average of 10 million marriages is celebrated every year in India.
A majority of the grand weddings are organized by wedding planners. The size and grandeur of the wedding indicates the couple’s social status. Apart from the formal wedding venues, weddings also happen in exotic Indian and foreign destinations, offering a memorable experience to the families and their guests.
Millions and Billions are spent on weddings and thus the intention to make weddings the most memorable day of life is fulfilled. However, there’s no guarantee how long this memorable day would last. Many of the grandest weddings have been on the rocks in a few years resulting in pain and suffering.
However, should the focus of attention be moved from “one day glory” to life-long happiness, the entire planning, efforts and its fruits would be altogether different.
While the wedding planner plans for one day, parents and those seeking a life-partner should spend time in focusing their efforts to:
- Establish Compatibility
Explore spiritual and religious beliefs
Develop personal, couple, and family goals
Discuss role expectations
Discuss living arrangements
Discuss about children
Discuss common issues related to the role of parents and in-laws
Learn communication and conflict resolution skills.
Efforts in educating on the above and resolving detrimental issues would certainly help in making not just one day a memorable day of life but assist in making rest of the marital journey smooth and enjoyable.
Category: MARITAL AWARENESS
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I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.