Marital Qualifications

| February 15, 2018 |

Dear Readers,  

In this post, I would like to emphasize the need for “Marital Qualifications” which are usually never considered in any marriage proposal.  However, several interviews are conducted to appoint even temporary staff in an Organization.

  • A Commander in his address to the battalion says;  we have bought the best uniforms available in the market and hope that you will be victorious in the battlefield . As far as the training in weaponry is concerned, you will learn a lot as the battle progresses and on ground training will be provided as required. Do you think they will be victorious?
  • A woman says to her friend that she cooked 2 kg tasty biryani for her guests. It was learnt that only half a kilogram of mutton was used and the biryani was prepared with ordinary rice. Do you think that the biryani would be tasty with the said ingredients?
  • A man approaches a contractor to build a house. The contractor esquires regarding the drawings. The man says not to worry about the drawings and to begin the work.  As the work progresses, drawings would be made available. Is it possible to start construction and then prepare the required drawings?
  • Applications were invited to fill vacancy for a Pilot . A person applies for the post as he has been a frequent flyer, is aware of many airports and is confident of flying a plane with the assistance of the co-pilot. Will he be a suitable pilot?
  • A person obtains a driving license without ever going to the Driving School or having any driving experience, would he be able to understand the road signs, road ethics etc.?

In the aforesaid examples we wonder whether such important tasks or duties can be performed by unqualified people. However, when it comes to a marriage, the major role of life, that of a “Spouse” is entrusted to a person who has only academic qualification but has very little or no marital qualifications and is not adequately trained to shoulder the various roles and responsibilities of a spouse or parent.

The Chinese athletes break Olympic records. The athletes are well prepared. Have you ever wondered what goes into preparation for the prestigious sporting events as they outclass and strike gold in most of the events.

      

According to a report, athletes who shine at Olympics would have undergone a terrible time at their camps, as they would be rigorously trained to be tough since their childhood. Training starts as early as 5 years old. Parents take initiatives to send their children in ruthless training camps across the nation where children, battle to complete the demanding routines on bars, rings, and mats.

Those who seek to get married and their parents spend couple of years planning about the clothes, jewelry, food, entertainment and the Wedding day. Isn’t it weird that years are spent planning for a single day and not a single day is spent to teach about things that will help and guide them throughout their marital journey.

What are the key areas that you think are necessary for the bride and the bridegroom to be trained so that they enter the marital journey with adequate marital qualifications?

Thanks again for reading the blog, and I’d be happy to hear your comments and suggestions.

Category: Marital Awareness

About the Author (Author Profile)

I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner from American University of NLP. I love reading, writing and Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system and Feticide.

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