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    Conscious Living

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  • An Accident

    An Accident

    An accident is defined as a Mishap, a Misfortune, a Calamity, a Catastrophe, a Disaster or a Mistake Where an accident is a Mishap and suppose you drive with a cup of coffee in your hand and you bump into another car from behind It’s a big blunder and not a mishap Where an accident […]

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  • Celebrating 4th Anniversary

    Celebrating 4th Anniversary

    Dear Readers, Hello and Assalamualaikum! The blog today successfully marks the 4th Anniversary of a beautiful journey with your support and kind appreciation. Muslim Wedding Flight did face some turbulence issues during the year. However, it has been able to cruise safely to distant destinations across the globe with the constant support and encouragement from […]

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  • 8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College-Final Part

    8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College-Final Part

    Here are the reasons to NOT send your daughter to college: 1. She will attract the wrong types of men. I share the common concern addressed to us, again mainly by angry women, that there are so many lazy men in our society. But what mystifies me is why girls continue to marry them and […]

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  • 8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College- Part1

    8 Reasons to NOT Send Your Daughter to College- Part1

    Probably the most controversial and rejected position we have at Fix the Family is that parents should not send their daughters to college. It is even more vehemently opposed than the submission of wives to their husbands. Both of these positions we have are a threat to the trophies of the feminist agenda, so the […]

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  • Paying Guest and Marital Accommodation

    Paying Guest and Marital Accommodation

    Dear Readers, While watching a video about the recent suicide of a six month pregnant woman who was also a mother of two children, it pained me a lot.  She committed suicide as she was being tortured for more dowries.  On the other hand, I was startled when I read about the facilities provided in […]

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  • What Will You Do In This Situation?

    A teaspoon is a unit of volume measure equal to 1/3 tablespoon. It is exactly equal to 5 mL. In the USA there are 16 teaspoons in 1/3 cup, and there are 6 teaspoons in 1 fluid ounce. Why am I saying all this as if no one knows a teaspoon. Well, this little teaspoon […]

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  • Knowing the Purposes of a Marriage

    Knowing the Purposes of a Marriage

    Parents and those seeking a spouse are mostly worried about the wedding day and how they would be able to meet the expenses and make necessary arrangements for a smooth wedding.  However, a majority of them discard the idea of checking the veracity of the spouse’s background, getting a premarital medical checkup done or having […]

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  • Kuch Rang SaaS Ke Aise Bhi – Part-2

    Kuch Rang SaaS Ke Aise Bhi – Part-2

    MIL (Mother-In-Law): Dear Daughter-In-Law (DIL), While I was seeking a bride for my son, I had made it clear that we are against the evil practice of dowry system. However, almost all proposals that we came across were loaded with dowries because my son is settled abroad. In some proposals, parents were even willing to […]

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  • Kuch Rang Saas Ke Aise Bhi – Part-1

    Kuch Rang Saas Ke Aise Bhi – Part-1

    SAAS (Mother-in-Law): Dear Daughter-in-Law, Now that you are engaged and will soon be joining our household, I would like to clarify some points as mentioned below: “After marriage, you will be permitted to visit your parents once a month. You’ll be allowed to visit or talk to your friends and relatives on all festive occasions. […]

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  • Why Marry?

    Unfortunately, these are some of the (unmentioned) reasons that some parents conceal when deciding to marry their children: • Our son is frivolous and we hope that he will learn his responsibilities once he gets married. • The mother is old and sick and we need a woman (daughter in-law) who will look after the […]

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  • Marriage Planning

    Marriage Planning

    “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail’ Benjamin Franklin         Planning can be defined as a mental process to achieve some predetermined goals based on facts rather than guesses.  Some of the areas that require planning are : Life Goals, Personality, Academic/Religious Qualifications, Essential Skills, Hobbies and Interests,  Well-Being and Social Interests.  A […]

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  • ABOUT ME

    ABOUT ME

    Hello and As Salamualaykum! Welcome aboard Muslim Wedding Flight and thank you very much for visiting my blog. I’m sure you must be bemused after reading this unusual blog title. Well, I got this idea while I was thinking about the various steps involved for a journey by flight. I wondered if people had to make meticulous […]

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I have always wondered over the precise details that are mentioned in the bio-data for marriage proposals. However when it comes to applying for a job, the C.Vs run into pages providing elaborate details so that no stone is left unturned.  

In one of the recent newspaper articles it was suggested that before hiring housemaids, they need to be screened for psychological and medical tests. Their family and criminal background also need to be checked.   An ultrasound is recommended for a pregnant woman in order to determine certain statistics about the age, sex, and level of development of the fetus and to determine the presence of birth defects or other potential problems.  Similarly, a Bio-Data should serve the purpose of an ultrasound that may help both families to get an in-depth knowledge about the prospective bride or bridegroom.

However, in case of a marriage proposal, a one-page bio-data with a photograph is all that is presented or required.  And the criteria is most often beauty with dowry for the bride and a degree with a good paycheck for the groom.

Here are a few examples (as advertised):

  • The groom is very decent, smart, religious, soft-spoken, civilized,loving,caring from a educated and respected family.

  • The bride should be genius,mature,perfect in house hold, religious,simple and silent nature. 

  • Bride should be at least graduate, well educated, decent & religious.

  • The boy is Religious, Decent, Well mannered, and is working as assistant manager in a reputed company with handsome salary.

  • We are looking for educated decent smart groom for sister. she is beautiful lightweight attractive bright white color.

  • Required a bride for my civil engineer son having the age of 26. the bride should be smart, slim, height about 5 feet 6 inches, intelligent, can cook any type of dish, age below 24, good looking, good nature, simple.

  • A Computer Engr seeking a bride from a reputable family. Bride’s age should be between 24-26, height required 5ft 1 inch not more than that and she must be fair or wheatish fair, well qualified (preferable Engr/doc/M.Sc), simple and decent.

One reason why it takes years to finalize the marriage proposal is due to minimal information being provided at the time of proposal.  After many rounds of talks, phone conversations and visits there would still be room for shocks and surprises.

The second major reason for many failed marriages is lack of vital information regarding health, habits or family background not being disclosed with a hope that everything will be alright after the marriage.  

When applying for a passport, an individual is required to submit an application form providing all necessary details about self and family as well as a Police Inquiry Report clearing the individual from any criminal involvement. In case of an application for personal, housing or a vehicle loan, documents such as a copy of the passport, a copy of the salary certificate, a copy of the bank passbook, a copy of the employment contract, statement of the bank account etc. are required to be submitted.

We do not hesitate to provide true facts and required documents for the aforesaid purposes. However, at the time of selecting a life partner for our children, we do hesitate to ask or to provide full information as it may be necessary.  One of life’s most important obligations is fulfilled more or less based upon our assumptions and presumptions in certain aspects of the proposal. Providing and seeking comprehensive details at the time of a marriage proposal would eliminate all doubts, surprises and shocks and the relationship will be established based on truth and honesty which are the pillars for any successful partnership.

I have developed a comprehensive Bio-data for marriage proposals that covers about ten major aspects about the spouses enabling marriage proposal an easy process. The detailed format is available in my book “A Guide To Spouse Selection” (http://www.amazon.com/dp/B009XI4XGC)

Abu Huraira (RA) reported:

The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, 

“He who relieves the hardship of a believer in this world, Allah will relieve his hardship on the Day of Judgment.

He who makes easy what is difficult, Allah will make it easy for him in the world and the Hereafter.

He who conceals the faults of a Muslim, Allah will conceal his faults in the world and the Hereafter, for Allah helps the servant so long as he helps his brother.

He who travels a path in search of knowledge, Allah will make easy a path to Paradise, for a people do not gather together in the houses of Allah, reciting the Book of Allah and studying together, except that tranquility will descend upon them, mercy will cover them, angels will surround them, and Allah will mention them to those with Him; and he who is slow to good deeds will not be hastened by his lineage.”

Source: Sahih Muslim 2699

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