I still remember it was such a beautiful day. The sun was bright and the presence of kith and kin, friends and neighbors made the day more festive. I was congratulated, complemented and also received a lot of compliments. There was so much joy and happiness around particularly in my family. The whole day was spent with lots of fun, food and enjoyment.
Today, after a gap of several years I realized that all that joy, happiness and celebration was felt only by me and my family. The smiles and laughter from you and your family were only outward while deep pain and worry had engulfed your family.
Your father had to sell away the only plot that he had bought from his retirement fund. He had also taken a bank loan to meet various requirements. When he was still unable to meet the requirements he had to borrow hand loans from relatives and friends. However, when it became difficult to pay back the loans, your brother was forced to seek a job abroad. He was the only support for your parents and he too had to separate leaving your parents alone.
Your mother lost her life worrying about your brother’s separation and illness abroad and your younger sister’s marriage was delayed for over seven years until your brother had saved the required amount for dowry.
After learning about all the pain and misery of your family I’m at a loss of words to express my apologies for the shameful act of demanding dowry from your parents. I hang my head in shame and wonder about how many more families would be under the umbrella of this tortuous dowry system. How many more parents will sacrifice their life-long savings, how many more brothers will sacrifice their lives to save money for the wedding expenses? How many more like me are planning and preparing for the happiest day of their life that brings sorrow and worries for the rest of life to their In-Laws.
All that I did was to accede to the wishes of my parents, relatives and the Society to follow this dowry ritual. I’m so sorry, please pardon me for my biggest blunder and my request to all those who have not yet committed this crime would better amend their thoughts about dowry rather than regret for ever.
A regretful son and a husband.
How many bridegrooms do you think truly regret for all the misery they have brought to their spouse and her family?
About the Author (Author Profile)
I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.