A majority of parents from the Asian Subcontinent are mostly worried about their daughters’ getting/not-getting married. Fear and Trust are the foundations of these worries.
Fear is: An anxious feeling, caused by our anticipation of some imagined event or experience.
President Franklin Roosevelt famously asserted, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.”
Parents usually have some of the following fears:
- Fear of the Society
- Fears regarding falling in love with someone
- Fear for not finding a suitable match if marriage is delayed for long.
- Risks of pregnancy if married over 35
- Last but not the least, Fear of wedding expenses.
Instead of having the above fears, one should fear the Creator.
Allah promises those who fear Him that He will provide for their needs and grant them a way out of their worldly difficulties. Allah says: “And whoever fears Allah, He will make for him a way out, and provide for him from whence he could never imagine.” [ Sûrah al-Talâq : 2-3]
Allah says: “It is only those who have knowledge among Allah’s servants who fear Him.” [ Sûrah Fâtir : 28]
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “Fear Allah wherever you are. Follow up a bad deed with a good deed and it will blot it out. And deal with people in a good manner.” [ Sunan al-Tirmidhî ]
“If you had all relied on Allah (SWT) as you should rely on Him, then He would have provided for you as He provides for the birds, who wake up hungry in the morning and return with full stomachs at dusk.” [At-Tirmidhi].
Some parents may not worry much about their daughter’s marriage as they rely or trust in the following:
- Jewelry: They may be capable to give up to a Kilo of jewelry.
- Property: They already have flats/land which they intend to give as dowry.
- Qualification: The daughter is highly qualified.
- Earning: The daughter has a highly paid job.
However, the trust should once again be in the Creator.
Put your trust in Allah. Allah loves those that trust [in Him]. [Surah al-Imran 3: 159]
Instead of having fear of the society and trust in the worldly things, it would be more apt for parents to rely on Allah (The Most High) who can instill an enormous amount of peace and contentment and who will provide a way out for the worldly affairs.
Category: MARITAL AWARENESS
About the Author (Author Profile)
I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.