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Employment Offer for a Wife

| January 13, 2015 | 12 Comments

Every employee knows and understands the value of an “Employment Contract”, probation, appraisal, increment etc.  Salary, facilities and perks play a significant role for an employee. Suppose a person is offered a post in a company where no contract is signed and the employee is unaware of his salary, perks, rights and duties, etc; and everything is left for the discretion of the employer, will any employee be willing to take up such an employment?

In a majority of marriages, women are literally employed rather than being life-partners. The terms and conditions under which they are forced to live and compromise are more difficult than that of an employee in a company.  If an employee should find difficulty in compromising with the company’s environment or terms and conditions of the employment contract, he has the opportunity to resign and join another company. However, this is not easy in a marital contract.

A Pre-Marital Contract can promote clarity and understanding between the spouses and the families concerned and help in addressing many concerns and issues that arise post-marriage. The following specimen is an effort to highlight the same.

Employment Offer for a Wife

Date: 13th January 2015.

Ms. Truly Lucky
No. 1, 1st Street
Wonderful City,
Best Province
Pin Code: 100001

Subject: Employment Offer

Dear Ms. Lucky,

Following our recent discussions with you and your family, we are delighted to offer you the position of a WIFE.  If you should find this proposal acceptable and would like to join our family, you will become part of a fast-paced and dedicated family that works together to provide the highest possible level of love and services.

As a member of our family, we would ask for your commitment to deliver outstanding quality and results that exceed our expectations. In addition, we expect your personal accountability in all matters, actions, advice and results that you provide as a Daughter-In-law. In return, we are committed to providing you with every opportunity to learn grow and stretch to the highest level of your ability and potential.

We are confident that you will find this new opportunity both challenging and rewarding. After receipt of your acceptance to this offer, we will arrange an Engagement Party. The marital contract agreement will be signed and notarized during this celebration.

The following points outline the terms and conditions we are proposing.

Job title: WIFE

Job description: as per mutual understanding between you and your spouse.

Start date: 30 days after the wedding reception

Compensation: 7% of your spouse’s gross pay will be credited to your bank account on or before the 5th day of each month.

Probation: One Year (The probationary period could be extended if not found satisfactory)

Hours of work: 48hrs per week and one weekly off day. Hours in excess of (48) per week are classed as overtime and shall be added to the Formal Leave.

Reporting Relationship: Husband

Housing: You will be provided with a fully furnished independent bedroom where nobody (except your spouse) will have the right to enter without your permission.  In addition, a living room along with a kitchen will be provided to entertain your guests.

Upon completion of the probationary period, you will be evaluated in the following areas.

  • Interpersonal Skills
    Communication
    Health, Safety and Environment
    Kitchen Management
    Problem Solving & Decision Making
    Planning & Organization
    Cost Effectiveness
    Dependability
    Leadership

If your performance is found to be exceedingly good in the aforesaid areas, you will be rewarded suitably.  After satisfactorily completing your probation, if your spouse is financially capable, he would be obliged to provide you with a separate fully furnished two bedroom accommodation.

Annual Leave: 96 days per year (CL-Blue Form, FL-Yellow Form):

                                        Type of Leave                                                                            Days

Casual Leave : (For window shopping, visits to beauty parlor etc.)                      48
Formal Leave : (Visits to Parents, Relatives and Friends)                                      48
Medical Leave : (as required)

Confidentiality: You may not disclose any information (personal or financial) related to the In-Laws that may be deemed as detrimental to the family’s reputation.

Grievances: If you have any grievance in relation to any matter or person, you should raise it with [Mother-In-Law] orally or in writing.

Health and safety: We have a detailed health and safety policy a copy of which is available with MIL. The Daughter-In-Law is required to read the policy and take all necessary steps to comply.  Failure to comply may result in disciplinary action.

Additional Terms & Conditions: As agreed upon between you and your spouse in the Marital Contract.

This arrangement may be terminated upon 6 month’s notice in writing to either party.

We look forward to the opportunity to live with you in an atmosphere that is successful and mutually challenging and rewarding to you and the families concerned.

Sincerely,

The In-Laws and the Daughter-In-Law hereby declare that they understand thoroughly the above provisions and terms & conditions as stipulated in the Marital Contract Agreement and agree to sign to abide by such provisions. They shall each retain a copy of this contract for future reference.

________________                                                              ____________________
Applicant  Signature                                                                    Signature of In-Laws

Date:_________________                                                     Date:________________

Above is a sample Employment Offer. Would this be welcome if a bride should get such an employment offer?

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I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.

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  1. sindhoooo says:

    Simply superb! You are making us smile :) I share the same views as Saru, Ranjana and Maniparna have said :D As Vinay said it rightly, everyone in the society needs to understand that women as ‘wives’ are not taken for granted…
    Sharing on my FB wall…

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    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      I have always thought that when as an employee there are so many rules, regulations and conditions that are agreed upon before employment that can be terminated any time, then why not men and women who are seeking a life partner too have some conditions, rules and regulations agreed upon before venturing into the marital journey so that future problems could be handled more easily without becoming a prey.

  2. Partha says:

    I have written a post to inform Hindu brides and grooms to let them know about their responsibilities. These come from the vows we take during marriage. Even though that post was written for a different purpose, you may find that interesting…happy blogging

    http://themalefactor.com/2014/12/10/getting-married-do-you-know-these/

  3. Saru Singhal says:

    I am all smiles. You have the votes of all ladies out there.

  4. Hahaha…all the wives in this world will be happy to read this

  5. Another wonderful and subtly satirical post.. enjoyed it really :-D
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  6. Ha ha.. A very clever post Fayaz! :D .. Really enjoyed reading this one.. Subtle but it sure does convey a very strong message :)
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