• Consequences of a Forced Marriage

    Consequences of a Forced Marriage

    As explained in my previous post, the reasons for forced marriage are complex and varied.   Whatever the rationale, the result may subject a young woman to severe and sustained abuse, including domestic violence, marital rape, and other forms of violence, decreased levels of education, health complications, and a life of submission and dependence. Although there […]

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  • Arranged but Forced Marriages

    Arranged but Forced Marriages

    Most parents desire that their daughters find a suitable match and settle down in life. Parents do have some concerns regarding society, difficulty in finding a better suitor or obstacles in parenthood in case of a delayed marriage and/or getting their children married before retirement so that they do not have financial difficulties. However, there […]

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  • Marriage Is Not a Wild Card Entry

    Marriage Is Not a Wild Card Entry

    Marriage is not a wild card entry where the Mother-In-Law and Daughter-In-Law get into a competition to prove themselves. Marriage is a partnership between MIL and DIL.  This partnership should allow them to live in harmony with encouragement and support from each other in individual pursuits so as to reach their potential.  On the other […]

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  • Successful and Unsuccessful People

    Successful and Unsuccessful People

    Dear Readers, Hello and As Salamualaykum! Another year has passed by and we once again have new resolutions, goals and aspirations and hope to achieve them in 2016.  However, we need to know some of the traits of successful and unsuccessful people: It is evident that all our expectations to see the change in the […]

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  • Dowry is an obligation

    Dowry is an obligation

    Dowry is an obligation of Islamic marriage.  The Mahr (dowry) is something that is paid by the man to his wife. It is paid to the wife as an honor and a respect and to show that he has a serious desire to marry her and is not simply entering into the marriage contract without […]

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  • The Lighter Side of Matrimonial Ads

    The Lighter Side of Matrimonial Ads

    While we read matrimonial ads, we do wonder about some of the peculiar things that are mentioned in those ads. Below are a few ads that bring the lighter side of matrimonial ads: Salesman: Once in a lifetime offer, to get yourself the original, genuine article. One of the most handsome and smartest bachelor’s around is now […]

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  • What causes delays in marriages?

    What causes delays in marriages?

    In a job interview the applicants are questioned about their skills, ambitions, motivation, team working, personality and interests, etc.  However, criteria for a marriage proposal interview is entirely different. What causes delays in marriages is certainly not because of lack of certain aspects related to skills, ambitions, personality, interests or hobbies. Qualified, experienced and skilled candidates work […]

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  • Suicide As A Last Resort

    Suicide As A Last Resort

    Day in and day out we hear or read about suicides committed by young married women such as: “A 22-year-old woman was being harassed by her husband for trivial reasons. Unable to bear harassment, she resorted to the extreme step by setting herself ablaze on November 4 where she succumbed on Sunday night. A 28-year-old […]

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  • Inquire and Investigate

    When we intend to buy a car, a smart phone, a laptop or a television we inquire and investigate and do enormous research on the internet, seek advice from friends and relatives and then decide to purchase. Suppose the purchased product is defective or malfunctions, we have an option to exchange or get a refund. […]

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  • Everything will be alright

    Everything will be alright

    The phrase “Everything will be alright” is generally used under stressful circumstances in order to pacify or motivate the affected person. However, when this phrase is used to convince a son/daughter to accept a marriage proposal, it is very dangerous because some assumptions have been made that could go wrong and result in a miserable […]

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  • Blog Roll

    Blog Roll

    Please find below links to some of the truly inspiring, motivating and informative blogs from the blogging fraternity.    Dowry  and Female Feticides http://www.itsagirlmovie.com/ http://saynotodowryenglish.blogspot.com/ http://www.firstpost.com/tag/dowry http://saynodowry.com/ http://www.boloji.com/index.cfm?md=Content&sd=Articles&ArticleID=1911 http://manasij.wordpress.com/2012/08/27/dowry/ http://blogs.thenewstribe.com/blog/67490/say-no-to-dowry-loud-clear/#.UNC1xm_qmSo http://twocircles.net/2012sep07/young_generation_urged_say_%E2%80%98no_dowry.html http://www.causes.com/causes/268995-anti-dowry-campaign-say-no-to-dowry Marriage http://www.srilankamuslims.net/nice-graphic-about-muslim-marriage-dowry/ http://muslimmarriages.wordpress.com/ http://imcv-marriage.blogspot.com/ http://deltawomen.blogspot.com/2012/12/mysore-marriage-curse-of-muslim-women.html http://www.weddinglegend.com/muslim-wedding-traditions/ http://muslimspice.com/why-american-muslim-women-cannot-get-married http://www.atlantabeez.org/muslim-marriages-experiencing-high-rate-of-divorce/ http://blog.halfourdeen.com/ http://www.muslimmarriageadvice.com/a-blessing-of-paradise/ http://islam44.blogspot.com/2012/11/find-muslim-life-partner-muslim.html http://theduncanadventures.blogspot.com/2012/11/my-first-omani-muslim-wedding.html http://nour-dv.org.uk/2012/09/10/muslim-marriage-certificate-review/ http://www.islam-muslim.net/muslim-marriage-shaadi/ http://www.lovemydress.net/blog/2012/08/muslim-wedding-explosion-of-colour-and-style.html http://www.aware.org.sg/2012/07/rethinking-the-muslim-marriage-contract/ http://blog.naseeb.com/2012/10/problems-faced-by-muslim-couples-after-marriage/ http://www.muslimweddingtips.com/muslim-marriage-contract/ http://islamiclearningmaterials.com/7-warning-signs-your-marriage-trouble/ http://blog.rukhsanakhan.com/date/2012/12/ Self-Development http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/50-of-the-best-personal-development-blogs/ http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/07/the-top-50-blogs-that-will-unleash-your-motivation/ […]

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  • Contact

    Contact

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  • Word a Day

    Word a Day

    Word of the Day Word of the Day provided by TheFreeDictionary   Quote of the Day Quote of the Day provided by TheFreeDictionary   Article of the Day Article of the Day provided by TheFreeDictionary   This Day in History This Day in History provided by TheFreeDictionary   Today’s Birthday Today’s Birthday provided by TheFreeDictionary […]

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  • Why Marry?

    Unfortunately, these are some of the (unmentioned) reasons that some parents conceal when deciding to marry their children: • Our son is frivolous and we hope that he will learn his responsibilities once he gets married. • The mother is old and sick and we need a woman (daughter in-law) who will look after the […]

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  • Marriage Planning

    Marriage Planning

    “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail’ Benjamin Franklin         Planning can be defined as a mental process to achieve some predetermined goals based on facts rather than guesses.  Some of the areas that require planning are : Life Goals, Personality, Academic/Religious Qualifications, Essential Skills, Hobbies and Interests,  Well-Being and Social Interests.  A […]

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Do You Have A Dream?

| March 20, 2014 | 8 Comments

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.

~Eleanor Roosevelt

The happiest and most successful people are involved in doing something that they enjoy doing or are living a life of purpose and passion. One of the ingredients of happiness is doing what you enjoy most but unfortunately many of them do not know what their passion is.

A dream is a blueprint of a person’s purpose of life and potential, an inspiring picture of the future that energizes and empowers the mind to do everything possible in order to achieve it.

Most people have a dream. Some want to achieve something in life, and some want to become successful as a professional, businessman, a celebrity etc. Different people have different dreams such as day dreams, bad dreams, wild dreams, vicarious dreams, romantic dreams, career dreams, destination dreams, materialistic dreams etc.

Some people are positive and are happy to disclose their dreams while some are pessimistic and are afraid or embarrassed to talk about their dreams due to fear, lack of self-confidence, past failures, discouragement, and lack of imagination or are just willing to settle down for the average.

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The planning process of personal and career dreams is abruptly interrupted or paused by getting focused on another major milestone in life which is Marriage. In a majority of households getting daughters married is a dream come true project.

When the focus of attention is shifted to marriage and wedding, the dreams of the would-be bride and bridegroom are refrigerated or paused temporarily. After marriage few of them are able to thaw and refocus on their dreams. A majority of them are forced to suspend or abandon their dreams either due to additional marital responsibilities or due to resistance and opposition from the spouse or in-laws.

Whoever forms a partnership are usually aware of their dreams and targets and pursue them until they achieve it. However, in a marital partnership when couples do not have a dream to pursue or are forced to pursue their dreams individually it leads to myriad conflicts and problems.  If one of the spouses has a dream and is discouraged by the partner or in-laws, his/her dreams fades away or are permanently canned.

Those seeking marriage should be aware of their own and their partner’s dreams. This awareness will enable them to nurture and achieve their dreams as a TEAM.

One vital question before embarking on the marital journey would be to ask:

Do You Have A Dream?

(Click the link above for 22 secrets to discovering your dream)

“Don’t be pushed by your problems; be led by your dreams.”

~Unknown

What do you think would cement a relationship in a marriage?

1. Pursuing individual dreams.
2. Pursuing a single dream together.

Source: Google.com

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I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.

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  1. Anita says:

    Very true, Fayazji :)
    Dreams make us…very important to pursue them diligently.

  2. Very nice and inspiring post Fayaz. Yes, we all need to have some dream in our lives and believe in it with all our heart. That’s what adds hope to our life.

    Thanks for sharing such a wonderful post.

  3. sindhoooo says:

    Very nice post Fayazji! I am an artist. My dream is to live the arts. I was denying marriage proposals from doctors only because I thought being a doctor’s wife would kill my dreams. I respect doctors and if I agree to lead life along with a doctor, I would have to give first priority to his profession and his lifestyle than of mine. If I cannot, I shouldn’t!

    Now, I am married to a popular Yakshagana Artist and Software Engineer, who understands my dreams. We have individual dreams but love binds us :). He can go to any extent to help me in achieving my dreams. He is already popular and successful as an artist, I just need to support him and I do that :).

    So, I think, having individual dreams won’t matter much if we understand, respect and care for dreams of each other.

    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Thank you Sindhoo. Most are choosy in terms of vegetables, clothes, appliances and other day-to-day things. However, when it comes to choosing a life partner, the matter is left to destiny and thus there are so many problems post-marriage. Both seem to have made a very conscious and wise choice. May you both prosper and achieve your life’s dreams.

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