Biodata For Marriage Proposals

| January 19, 2018

Hello Readers!

I have always wondered over the precise details that are mentioned in the biodata for marriage proposals. However when it comes to applying for a job, the C.Vs run into pages providing elaborate details so that no stone is left upturned.

In one of the recent newspaper articles it was suggested that before hiring housemaids, they need to be screened for psychological and medical tests. Their family and criminal background also need to be checked. An ultrasound is recommended for a pregnant woman in order to determine certain statistics about the age, sex, and level of development of the fetus and to determine the presence of birth defects or other potential problems. Similarly, a Bio-Data should serve the purpose of an ultrasound that may help both families to get an in-depth knowledge about the prospective bride or bridegroom.

However, in case of a marriage proposal, a one-page bio-data with a photograph is all that is presented or required. And the criteria are most often beauty with dowry for the bride and a degree with a good paycheck for the groom.

Here are a few examples (as advertised):

  • The groom is very decent, smart, religious, soft-spoken, civilized, loving, caring from a educated and respected family.
  • The bride should be genius, mature, perfect in house hold, religious, simple and silent nature.
  • Bride should be at least graduate, well educated, decent & religious.
  • The boy is Religious, Decent, Well mannered, and is working as assistant manager in a reputed company with handsome salary.
  • We are looking for educated decent smart groom for sister. she is beautiful lightweight attractive bright white color.
  • Required a bride for my civil engineer son having the age of 26. the bride should be smart, slim, height about 5 feet 6 inches, intelligent, can cook any type of dish, age below 24, good looking, good nature, simple.
  • A Computer Engr seeking a bride from a reputable family. Bride’s age should be between 24-26, height required 5ft 1 inch not more than that and she must be fair or wheatish fair, well qualified (preferable Engr/doc/M.Sc), simple and decent.

One reason why it takes years to finalize the marriage proposal is due to minimal information being provided at the time of proposal. After many rounds of talks, phone conversations and visits there would still be room for shocks and surprises.

The second major reason for many failed marriages is lack of vital information regarding health, habits or family background not being disclosed with a hope that everything will be alright after the marriage.

When applying for a passport, an individual is required to submit an application form providing all necessary details about self and family as well as a Police Inquiry Report clearing the individual from any criminal involvement. In case of an application for personal, housing or a vehicle loan, documents such as a copy of the passport, a copy of the salary certificate, a copy of the bank passbook, a copy of the employment contract, statement of the bank account etc. are required to be submitted.

We do not hesitate to provide true facts and required documents for the aforesaid purposes. However, at the time of selecting a life partner for our children, we do hesitate to ask or to provide full information as it may be necessary. One of life’s most important obligations is fulfilled more or less based upon our assumptions and presumptions in certain aspects of the proposal. Providing and seeking comprehensive details at the time of a marriage proposal would eliminate all doubts, surprises and shocks and the relationship will be established based on truth and honesty which are the pillars for any successful partnership.

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Category: Marital Awareness

About the Author (Author Profile)

I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner from American University of NLP. I love reading, writing and Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system and Feticide.

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