The “Muslim Wedding Flight” took off on 31st December 2012 and after a fantastic journey it has completed its first year. It’s now time to reminisce, rejoice and thank you readers on its 1st Anniversary Celebration.
The journey witnessed a few articles, poems and songs on dowry. However, my focus has been towards addressing the decadent social evils in the society particularly the apathy and atrocities towards women due to the evil practice of dowry system. A woman is killed every hour in India because her family failed to meet her husband and in-laws’ demands for higher dowry payments and lavish gifts. Official figures from India’s National Crime Records Bureau reveal that 8,233 young women, many of them new brides, were killed in so-called ‘dowry deaths’ in 2012. A woman in India dies every two hours because an abortion goes wrong. There were 620,472 reported abortions in 2012; experts say the true number of abortions performed in the country could be as high as 7 million.
The total number of civilian deaths in World-War I was around 6.6 million and 70 million in World War II. However, civilian death toll from abortions and dowry deaths has surpassed this figure. These statistics about female infanticide and the tragic dowry deaths of thousands of women each year cannot be ignored or treated lightly like any other normal incidents in daily life but should be dealt-with on a war-footing basis by the society.
Parents bring up their daughters with lots of love and affection and hope to see them happily married. For a majority of them this dream has been shattered by the evil practice of dowry system. Women are facing an obstacle race for survival. If they are able to succeed in the dowry stage, they face yet another hurdle if the husband or in-laws prefer a “boy”. These two major expectations have resulted in deaths and lifelong mental, physical torture or humiliation.
In a latest report on dowry deaths as of 30th December 2013 in Times of India, Rina Jagne, 20, ended her life by consuming poison on Saturday evening. In her last statement to the police, she told that she took the extreme step due to unbearable torture by her mother-in-law Kavita and husband, Bablu for dowry. Rina had married Bablu just three months ago. Since then, he and his mother started harassing Rina to bring Rs 10,000 cash and other household things from her parents. The harassment grew with each passing day and the situation came to such a point that Rina chose to end her life. So, she consumed poison at her Dharam Nagar residence on Saturday evening.
It is not just the boys’ parents who are the culprits and promoters of this evil practice but also includes girls’ parents who are either willing to show-off their wealth and status or wish to give lavishly in order to compensate the lack of their daughter’s height, education or color (which is usually sought these days) and those who are greedy are ready to grab such opportunities.
From the time a girl is born until she gets married, her parents keep thinking and discussing only about her lack of fair color, less height, more weight or having a small nose and the like and accordingly prepare the list of dowry items to attract a greedy spouse as they believe and trust that dowry will somehow solve their problem. Unfortunately, this offer becomes the foundation stone for all future problems in the marital life of their daughter. It has been unanimously accepted that parents should give dowry to get their daughters married. As a matter of fact, they should have looked for a groom who is financially stable and able to provide all necessities such as clothes, household appliances, furniture etc as required to start the marital journey.
Business owners offer discounts on products that are out of season/fashion, slow moving, to increase sales, to reach sales targets or to dispose off old and damaged inventory. Similarly parents are also giving dowry offers to dispose off their loved daughters. Isn’t it pathetic? Feeding the greedy has increased the greed as well as promoted more social evils in the Society.
How High Can You Jump?
Flea trainers have observed a predictable and strange habit of fleas while training them. Fleas are trained by putting them in a cardboard box with a top on it. The fleas will jump up and hit the top of the cardboard box over and over and over again. As you watch them jump and hit the lid, something very interesting becomes obvious. The fleas continue to jump, but they are no longer jumping high enough to hit the top
When you take off the lid, the fleas continue to jump, but they will not jump out of the box. They won’t jump out because they have conditioned themselves to jump just so high. Many times, people do the same thing. They restrict themselves and never reach their potential. Just like the fleas, they fail to jump higher, thinking they are doing all they can do.
We blindly follow many customs and traditions particularly the evil practice of dowry system that has a disastrous impact on the society because we have conditioned ourselves like the fleas. We need to jump out of these customs and traditions enabling peace and prosperity in the Society.
There’s a silver lining through the dark clouds shining as many young men and women are able to understand the plethora of problems as a result of blind adherence to the decadent customs and traditions. We hope the day will soon arrive when men will feel ashamed to marry where dowry (in any form) is involved and bride’s parents also should stop offering dowry as a show-off or compensation and instead have a strong faith in the Creator than in the dowries they offer.
The following is a list of some favorite posts that were most visited during the year. Please copy the link and paste in your browser to visit the page.
- The Wedding Flight: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=84
- Dowry System: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=80
- Pre-Flight Safety Demo: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=100
- Cardiology: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=110
- Free-Classifieds: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=156
- Coffee with Society: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=208
- Security Check – Premarital Agreement: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=258
- Sample Terms & Conditions: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=263
- The Matrimonial Bermuda Triangle: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=310
- Bio-data for Marriage Proposal: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=367
- Wedding Reimbursement: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=406
- The Wedding Greed: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=423
- Marital Qualifications: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=448
- Premarital Planning & Preparation: http://muslimweddingflight.com/?p=484
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Last but not the least; I’m grateful to you all readers for your valuable comments, appreciation, and support and for sharing my posts on your social networks. You not only add value to my blog but also contribute towards awakening many souls in order to get rid of some of the decadent customs and traditions that have crippled the Society. Your cooperation and support goes a long way in spreading awareness to the masses and detoxifying many social evils from the society.
Wish you all a very happy and prosperous new year.
About the Author (Author Profile)
I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.
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