• There’s a Ray of Hope

    There’s a Ray of Hope

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  • Vehicle Inspection

    Vehicle Inspection

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  • Benefits of Fasting in Ramzan

    Benefits of Fasting in Ramzan

    Dear Readers, Hello and As Salamualaykum! Ramzan Sawm (Fasting) is one of the five pillars of Islam and the ninth month of the Muslim calendar. The meaning of Sawm is to ‘abstain’.  Ramzan is an annual workshop to refresh us for carrying out our duties towards Allah (SWT). Fasting develops patience, self-control and helps us […]

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  • Compromise and a Sacrifice

    Compromise and a Sacrifice

    On or before the wedding day, the daughter usually receives some marital tips from her mother or close relatives for a successful marriage and one of them is to make lots of compromises in order to have a lasting and a happy marriage. It is therefore necessary to understand the difference between a compromise and […]

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  • A Company and a Companion

    A Company and a Companion

    When seeking a job opportunity in a company or a life companion, a majority of them accept a job based on compensation or choose a life-partner based on qualifications, salary or physical features. However, there are many a factors that need to be sought and understood before one decides to choose a company and a […]

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  • Sammaan ya Apmaan

    Sammaan ya Apmaan

    Kehne ko tho saari duniya mein aurath ka samman hotha hai Aaj samaaj mein aurath ka utna hi apman ho raha hai Agar paida honey se pehle beti honey ka pata chal gaya Subse pehle Maa-Baap ne usko garbh se phenk diya Ladkon ne zabardasti jab apni chahat ko manwana chaha Aur agar inkar kiya […]

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  • Rites that are Wrongs

    Rites that are Wrongs

    Day in and day out we witness many families who are trapped in a roller coaster of emotional and financial turmoil. Most of the problems arise due to our need to conform to some of the cultural and traditional rites that are wrongs. The major cause of many a problems and suffering is the result of our unconscious […]

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  • As you sow so shall you reap

    As you sow so shall you reap

    A plant To be nurtured with care If you wish your life to be fair If you plant honesty, you will reap trust If you plant faith, you will reap miracles If you plant goodness, you will reap friends If you plant humility, you will reap greatness If you plant hard work, you will reap […]

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  • Main Hoon Na

    Main Hoon Na

    A song dedicated to those parents who make bumper dowry offers during a marriage proposal When boy’s parents arrive with a marriage proposal, the girl’s father says: Daulat ka hai tumko ye bukhaar, main hoon na Dekhlo ladki ko ek baar, main hoon na Khaamosh kyun ho, jo bhi chahe tum kaho Dil chaahe jitna, maal […]

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  • Mother of all Evils

    Mother of all Evils

    Many parents consider giving dowry as their love, obligation and responsibility. However, understanding the concept of dowry and its impact on the society becomes crucial in the wake of suffering and deaths caused by this evil system which is mother of all evils. The dowry system dates back to the Babylonian period wherein daughters did […]

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  • 100th Post

    100th Post

    Hello and As Salamualaykum! Dear Readers, The Wedding Flight  took off on 31st December 2012 and has reached its 100th post. This blog focuses on bringing awareness on some of the social evils in the society particularly the dowry system. The rising number of divorces, female infanticide and dowry deaths is alarming and threatening the society.  […]

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  • Love, Obligation and Responsibility

    Love, Obligation and Responsibility

    A majority of parents make assumptions and presumptions regarding various aspects while seeking a spouse for their children. In addition, they are confused between the words Love, Obligation and Responsibility. Some parents assume giving dowry is due to their love for their daughter, some consider it as their obligation and some consider it as their […]

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  • Memorable Day of Life

    Memorable Day of Life

    Couples make elaborate wedding and honeymoon plans to make wedding the most memorable day of life but none for a life together. Additionally, many are looking for spouses to marry without looking at their responsibilities in a marriage. How ridiculous would it be for a person to go to a job interview without having read […]

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  • A Stitch in Time Saves Nine

    A Stitch in Time Saves Nine

    When a marital proposal is made some questions play a very crucial role in setting right many an expectations from all concerned. At this stage, a majority of them either ignore or hesitate to ask some crucial questions. Once this opportunity is lost, the spouses, parents and in-laws face a lot of trauma when situations […]

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  • To Mein Ye Rishta Pakka Samjhoon

    To Mein Ye Rishta Pakka Samjhoon

    VEERU: Maaji, bas itna samajh lo ke ghar mein sirf Bete ki kamai se kuch nahin hota. Aur uspar ghar ke kaam kaaj bhi bahut hotey hain na? Ek aur kamaai ho aur ghar ke kaam karnewaali ho to zindagi badi aasaan hojathi hai. Bhayya ka byah ho jaaye to dahej bhi milega na? MAAJI: […]

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  • Socially Apathetic

    Socially Apathetic

    Communication involves the imparting or interchanging of thoughts, opinions, or information among people by speech, writing, or signs.  In everyday life, a great deal of information is communicated through signs, symbols and written texts e.g. labels on food packages, traffic signs, street signs, company signs, safety signs, business signs, danger signs, zodiac signs, religious signs, […]

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  • Marital Expectations

    Marital Expectations

    A well knit family whose members are loving, affectionate, religious, educated, cultured and socially active starts crumbling, disintegrating, and the attitude of the family turns hostile, vicious, monstrous and sometimes murderous resulting in a drastic transformation such as the beauty and the beast. What can cause a collapse in the family ties? What can bring […]

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  • Main aur Meri Tanhai

    Main aur Meri Tanhai

    Bridegroom:  Main aur meri tanhai aksar yeh baatein kartein hain Dahej na hota to keisa hota, Na ladki pareshan hoti na maabaap pareshan hotey. Na wo kisi baat pe hairaan hotey, Na ladkiyan kisi baat pe afsos karti Na Bahoo ko yun jalaya jaata, Na gharse yun nikala jaata Na Maabaap ko sood pe kharza […]

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  • Employment Offer for a Wife

    Employment Offer for a Wife

    Every employee knows and understands the value of an “Employment Contract”, probation, appraisal, increment etc.  Salary, facilities and perks play a significant role for an employee. Suppose a person is offered a post in a company where no contract is signed and the employee is unaware of his salary, perks, rights and duties, etc; and […]

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  • CONDEMNED AND CONDONED TERRORISM

    Terrorism has created extreme fear in the hearts of every common man. Terrorist attacks are deplorable and reprehensible that touches the core of a society and negates the most basic human rights. However, it is shocking to note that there lays a very huge difference between terror attacks that are condemned and deplored globally and […]

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  • Dowrywali Dulhania Le Jayenge

    Dowrywali Dulhania Le Jayenge

    Dowrywali Dulhania Le Jayenge Ye Kudiyaan Dowry Di Pudiyaan Ye Munde Fakhir De Kunde Ye Kudiyaan Dowry Di Pudiyaan Ye Munde Fakhir De Kunde Dowry Di Pudiyaan Fakhir De Kunde O  Jewelry kharidke rakhna Gaddi saja ke rakhna Jewelry kharidke rakhna Gaddi saja ke rakhna Lene Tujhse Wo Dowry Aayenge Tere Sajna Jewelry kharidke rakhna […]

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  • 2nd Anniversary Celebration

    2nd Anniversary Celebration

    Dear Readers, Hello and As Salamualaykum! The Muslim Wedding Flight was launched on 31st December 2012 with a vision to bring awareness on some of the decadent social evils in the society. Today, it marks the 2nd Anniversary of a beautiful journey with your support and kind appreciation. In these two years, attempts have been […]

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  • Socially Approved Kidnapping

    Socially Approved Kidnapping

    Dear Readers, Greetings! The spread of many social evils like dowry, child marriage, domestic violence, rape, sexual harassment, exploitation of women, kidnapping, etc. have marred the Indian Society and present a tarnished image to the whole world.  One of these social evils is kidnapping for ransom.  Bride kidnapping and socially approved kidnapping are also prevalent […]

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  • Reel And Real Life

    Reel And Real Life

    The Creator has designed different roles for human beings. However, these roles differ between Reel and Real Life. Actors and actresses bring characters to life and deliver believable and effective performances by memorizing lines and actions from scripts. They study scripts, rehearse performances and ensure that they conform the emotions, gestures and facial expressions to […]

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  • Are We Smart?

    Are We Smart?

    We live in an era of smart technology, smart phones, smart goals, smart cars, smart TVs, smart homes, smart traveler programs, smart schools, smart watches, smart music, etc. However, the million dollar question is Are We Smart? Modern technology has broadened options for travel, school, communication, entertainment, work, etc. Lives have been improved through convenience, […]

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  • Stop Bargaining and Start Negotiating

    Stop Bargaining and Start Negotiating

    Bargaining also known as haggling is an art in which most Indians particularly women have specialized.  Any purchase that results in a confrontation over price where some savings have been made seems worthy. It’s now time to stop bargaining and start negotiating.   However, bargaining power has been limited to haggling over the price of […]

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  • Huge Dowry or Huge Differences

    Huge Dowry or Huge Differences

    Weddings in India are steeped in tradition and culture. One of the traditions that have been passed down in time is the system of dowry.  The groom’s parents place a series of demands before the bride’s parents to give dowry items such as household appliances, color television, motor cycle or car, ornaments of pure gold […]

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  • Log Kya Kahenge

    Log Kya Kahenge

    There are many phobias and fears. Phobias of spiders, snakes, heights, water, tunnels, bridges, social rejection, examinations etc. Fears such as, fear of survival, fear of death, fear of the unknown, fear of uncertainty and unpredictably, etc. People develop specific fears as a result of learning. Fear can be learned by experiencing or watching a […]

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  • The Dowry Iceberg

    The Dowry Iceberg

    RMS Titanic was a British passenger liner that sank in the North Atlantic Ocean in the early morning of 15 April 1912 after colliding with an iceberg during her maiden voyage from Southampton, UK to New York City, US. The sinking of Titanic caused the deaths of more than 1,500 people in one of the […]

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  • Kaun Banega Pati Aur Lakhpati

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  • Blog Roll

    Blog Roll

    Please find below links to some of the truly inspiring, motivating and informative blogs from the blogging fraternity.    Dowry  and Female Feticides http://www.itsagirlmovie.com/ http://saynotodowryenglish.blogspot.com/ http://www.firstpost.com/tag/dowry http://saynodowry.com/ http://www.boloji.com/index.cfm?md=Content&sd=Articles&ArticleID=1911 http://manasij.wordpress.com/2012/08/27/dowry/ http://blogs.thenewstribe.com/blog/67490/say-no-to-dowry-loud-clear/#.UNC1xm_qmSo http://twocircles.net/2012sep07/young_generation_urged_say_%E2%80%98no_dowry.html http://www.causes.com/causes/268995-anti-dowry-campaign-say-no-to-dowry Marriage http://www.srilankamuslims.net/nice-graphic-about-muslim-marriage-dowry/ http://muslimmarriages.wordpress.com/ http://imcv-marriage.blogspot.com/ http://deltawomen.blogspot.com/2012/12/mysore-marriage-curse-of-muslim-women.html http://www.weddinglegend.com/muslim-wedding-traditions/ http://muslimspice.com/why-american-muslim-women-cannot-get-married http://www.atlantabeez.org/muslim-marriages-experiencing-high-rate-of-divorce/ http://blog.halfourdeen.com/ http://www.muslimmarriageadvice.com/a-blessing-of-paradise/ http://islam44.blogspot.com/2012/11/find-muslim-life-partner-muslim.html http://theduncanadventures.blogspot.com/2012/11/my-first-omani-muslim-wedding.html http://nour-dv.org.uk/2012/09/10/muslim-marriage-certificate-review/ http://www.islam-muslim.net/muslim-marriage-shaadi/ http://www.lovemydress.net/blog/2012/08/muslim-wedding-explosion-of-colour-and-style.html http://www.aware.org.sg/2012/07/rethinking-the-muslim-marriage-contract/ http://blog.naseeb.com/2012/10/problems-faced-by-muslim-couples-after-marriage/ http://www.muslimweddingtips.com/muslim-marriage-contract/ http://islamiclearningmaterials.com/7-warning-signs-your-marriage-trouble/ http://blog.rukhsanakhan.com/date/2012/12/ Self-Development http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/50-of-the-best-personal-development-blogs/ http://www.persistenceunlimited.com/2007/07/the-top-50-blogs-that-will-unleash-your-motivation/ […]

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  • Contact

    Contact

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  • Word a Day

    Word a Day

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  • Why Marry?

    Unfortunately, these are some of the (unmentioned) reasons that some parents conceal when deciding to marry their children: • Our son is frivolous and we hope that he will learn his responsibilities once he gets married. • The mother is old and sick and we need a woman (daughter in-law) who will look after the […]

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1st Anniversary Celebration

| December 31, 2013 | 8 Comments

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The “Muslim Wedding Flight” took off on 31st December 2012 and after a fantastic journey it has completed its first year.  It’s now time to reminisce, rejoice and thank you readers on its 1st Anniversary Celebration.

The journey witnessed a few articles, poems and songs on dowry. However, my focus has been towards addressing the decadent social evils in the society particularly the apathy and atrocities towards women due to the evil practice of dowry system. A woman is killed every hour in India because her family failed to meet her husband and in-laws’ demands for higher dowry payments and lavish gifts. Official figures from India’s National Crime Records Bureau reveal that 8,233 young women, many of them new brides, were killed in so-called ‘dowry deaths’ in 2012. A woman in India dies every two hours because an abortion goes wrong. There were 620,472 reported abortions in 2012; experts say the true number of abortions performed in the country could be as high as 7 million.

The total number of civilian deaths in World-War I was around 6.6 million and 70 million in World War II. However, civilian death toll from abortions and dowry deaths has surpassed this figure. These statistics about female infanticide and the tragic dowry deaths of thousands of women each year cannot be ignored or treated lightly like any other normal incidents in daily life but should be dealt-with on a war-footing basis by the society.

Parents bring up their daughters with lots of love and affection and hope to see them happily married. For a majority of them this dream has been shattered by the evil practice of dowry system. Women are facing an obstacle race for survival. If they are able to succeed in the dowry stage, they face yet another hurdle if the husband or in-laws prefer a “boy”. These two major expectations have resulted in deaths and lifelong mental, physical torture or humiliation.

In a latest report on dowry deaths as of 30th December 2013 in Times of India, Rina Jagne, 20, ended her life by consuming poison on Saturday evening. In her last statement to the police, she told that she took the extreme step due to unbearable torture by her mother-in-law Kavita and husband, Bablu for dowry. Rina had married Bablu just three months ago. Since then, he and his mother started harassing Rina to bring Rs 10,000 cash and other household things from her parents. The harassment grew with each passing day and the situation came to such a point that Rina chose to end her life. So, she consumed poison at her Dharam Nagar residence on Saturday evening.

It is not just the boys’ parents who are the culprits and promoters of this evil practice but also includes girls’ parents who are either willing to show-off their wealth and status or wish to give lavishly in order to compensate the lack of their daughter’s height, education or color (which is usually sought these days) and those who are greedy are ready to grab such opportunities.

From the time a girl is born until she gets married, her parents keep thinking and discussing only about her lack of fair color, less height, more weight or having a small nose and the like and accordingly prepare the list of dowry items to attract a greedy spouse as they believe and trust that dowry will somehow solve their problem. Unfortunately, this offer becomes the foundation stone for all future problems in the marital life of their daughter. It has been unanimously accepted that parents should give dowry to get their daughters married. As a matter of fact, they should have looked for a groom who is financially stable and able to provide all necessities such as clothes, household appliances, furniture etc as required to start the marital journey.

Business owners offer discounts on products that are out of season/fashion, slow moving, to increase sales, to reach sales targets or to dispose off old and damaged inventory. Similarly parents are also giving dowry offers to dispose off their loved daughters. Isn’t it pathetic? Feeding the greedy has increased the greed as well as promoted more social evils in the Society.

How High Can You Jump?

Flea trainers have observed a predictable and strange habit of fleas while training them. Fleas are trained by putting them in a cardboard box with a top on it. The fleas will jump up and hit the top of the cardboard box over and over and over again. As you watch them jump and hit the lid, something very interesting becomes obvious. The fleas continue to jump, but they are no longer jumping high enough to hit the top

When you take off the lid, the fleas continue to jump, but they will not jump out of the box. They won’t jump out because they have conditioned themselves to jump just so high. Many times, people do the same thing. They restrict themselves and never reach their potential. Just like the fleas, they fail to jump higher, thinking they are doing all they can do.

We blindly follow many customs and traditions particularly the evil practice of dowry system that has a disastrous impact on the society because we have conditioned ourselves like the fleas. We need to jump out of these customs and traditions enabling peace and prosperity in the Society.

There’s a silver lining through the dark clouds shining as many young men and women are able to understand the plethora of problems as a result of blind adherence to the decadent customs and traditions. We hope the day will soon arrive when men will feel ashamed to marry where dowry (in any form) is involved and bride’s parents also should stop offering dowry as a show-off or compensation and instead have a strong faith in the Creator than in the dowries they offer.

The following is a list of some favorite posts that were most visited during the year. Please copy the link and paste in your browser to visit the page.

I would like to thank the Hostgator Support Staff who helped me immensely at the time of hosting the blog as I’m not tech savvy. My sincere thanks go to Indiblogger team who provided a platform where my blog is showcased, supported and promoted at http://www.indiblogger.in/indivine_myposts.php

Last but not the least; I’m grateful to you all readers for your valuable comments, appreciation, and support and for sharing my posts on your social networks. You not only add value to my blog but also contribute towards awakening many souls in order to get rid of some of the decadent customs and traditions that have crippled the Society. Your cooperation and support goes a long way in spreading awareness to the masses and detoxifying many social evils from the society.

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Wish you all a very happy and prosperous new year.

Source: http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/nagpur/Hubby-mom-in-law-booked-for-newly-wed-womans-suicide/articleshow/28116845.cms?intenttarget=no

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I’m Fayaz Pasha from Bangalore, the Silicon Valley and Garden City of India. I’m a Certified Life Coach and an NLP Practitioner. I love reading, writing and convey my thoughts through Poetry. I would like to make my humble contribution to the Society through this blog towards detoxification of social evils particularly the dowry system.

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  1. Athenas Take says:

    Will surely be checking in tomorrow for the book. Congratulations on completing a successful first year and hope that there are many many more to come. The figures that I have read in your post today are unbelievable. When wars take place we say why is there so much hatred and animosity between countries and people but when a dowry death takes place or there is harassment on nobody opens their mouth. Its a sad state as of now. Yes there is a change which has come in and gradually with awareness it is surely going to get better and better. We all at Athenastake support and stand with you in your cause and once again congrats.
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    • Fayaz Pasha says:

      Thank you so much Athenas. It is this irony that we feel sad and express our anger when we read about deaths in wars. Unfortunately, we have completely ignored the huge number of deaths caused each day due to abortions and dowry deaths. However, there’s always hope that people will sooner or later learn to discard those customs and traditions that have tarnished the Society.

      My grateful thanks and gratitude to you and Athenastake Team for your valuable support.

  2. Indrani says:

    I really like your passion with which you write in these topics. Congrats on a successful year!
    A very happy new year to you!

  3. I am really impressed with your writing skills as smartly as with the structure in your weblog. Is this a paid subject matter or did you modify it yourself? Either way keep up the excellent high quality writing, it’s uncommon to peer a great weblog like this one nowadays..

  4. paresh Kale says:

    Heartily congrats, wish this blog will prosper forever. Also a very happy new year to you and your readers :-)

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